Ok here's my side of it. Aquarian men can be extremely shy, detached and uneasy about their emotions. This can make them run for the hills. He may have feelings for you, but unsure if they are genuine, or fleeting. I know for me I get moments of extreme intense energy attraction then it passes. However when I met my recent boyfriend of two years(Libra) it was like a t flash of lightning. I knew I was completely mad in love with him and he with I. We do know when things are completely right, but however male Aquarians are more frightened of their "rightness" due to fear of rejection. Aquarians in general are also very apprehensive about closeness. Being close means investing feelings, time, and energy they don't want to share because it's less troublesome in the end. We like space and need room to breath. We can't be smothered unless we choose to be. I choose to be with my boyfriend because I freakin love him so much, he's my best friend first and foremost. When we argue, and oh boy... Libra/ Aquarians can get very heated when upset, but always float back into each others arms. Sometimes my boyfriend does say I'm cold and distant, but I'm really just trying to figure my shit out. Sometimes I just need to step away to look at the bigger picture. I'm also not an overly sexual person, but extremely expressive and passionate when I know somethings right. Perhaps your Aquarian is just figuring things out. The best way to handle an Aquarian is to confront them. Ask him what's on his mnd, and why you guys have become so distant, that you miss him. When Aquarians are put on the spot they may sweat a bit, but honesty is their function. Just don't be disappointed if its not what you wanted to hear, just be grateful for their sincere honesty because many can't even offer you that. Good Luck!

thanks for your replies.

i know that emotions are never easy to express, and i do agree with what you said kevin- "It is quite well known for us Aquarians to be quite unsettled when dealing with emotion and not knowing how to express it properly. In times like this we become detached and aloof in order to preserve some form of sanity and try to find a way of dealing with what has happened and how to proceed."

"so maybe an email or a note expressing how you would like to have your friend back and list his virtues and what you found amazing about him in the first place and found a trusting person to be friends with may be the way to break the ice."

when i talked to him, i told him that i missed him and i told him how much i valued him and how much he has meant to me. he also told me that i'll always mean a lot to him- but being an Aquarius, he loves these overly idealistic ways of saying things and this is partly what I love about him, and partly what I often feel like I cant trust about him.

i think in the past entering a relationship was possible if it wasn't for the fact that I couldnt read his intentions well at all. at the time, of course, i have no idea he was a stellium Aquarius and I was a Taurus Moon with a Scorpio Venus. i feel like he blew things out of proportion and often said things for the shock effect to recieve a dramatic response from someone more than anything. but now i realize i misunderstood that side of him and that our patterns of communicating are just very different - and expressing our feelings is also very different

i feel like i told him very nice things and more- but the patterns in our life are now too hard set and it's been a year since we've been close, and they're very hard to reverse. i got the feeling that he was ok with "saying" he felt the same way, but not "doing" anything beyond that- so i feel like i can't really put myself out there anymore and continue trying. i feel like i just need to accept the fate of it

"We can't be smothered unless we choose to be"

I always got that sense about him and I think thats why our friendship worked so well in the best- i never came even close to smothering him- but I felt like there was still so much magnetism and excitement that we spent so much time together, completely out of pure desire to be in each others company. i never noticed him getting antsy during these times or like he felt smothered. one of the reasons we feel apart was probably due to me- and that i was too distant - and i think he was tried of repeatedly crossing that bridge and strengthening our connection

the only thing that is really sad to me is that i felt like we were really unique together - like had incredible chemistry and i didn't entirely realize the scope of it at the time. i felt like he understood that better than me. i miss feeling close to him and i get a "phantom feeling" of closeness whenever we're in the same room- like all of that was just yesterday- but i feel really hurt that he seems to have simply moved on without looking back and i m going to respect that decision.


side note: the whole experience makes me so doubtful that the Aquarian-Taurus-Scorpio connects are really that bad, because the experience was so overly positive for me- until he ran off, sending me mixed messages, and giving me the cold shoulder.

the was one thing though that i could never stand haha - and it was that sometimes i would say something i felt like was insightful and he would say "I know that, why are you telling me that. of course i know that" or i would say something and he would say "haha I know you.. I knew you were going to say that.. I already know exactly what you're going to say before you say it."

i never _felt_ like that was true but i felt like he was always concerned with pinning me down which made me sad.

otherwise, he was a great friend and i miss him. eh.