I've always been an open book with my heart on my sleeve...For the most part, I like it, as my day-to-day life feels very honest that way and everyone knows where they stand with me. In recent years though, I'm not sure this trait serves me well, as most others I encounter are not like this. I used to think everyone was as intuitive as me, which is why I should be (tactfully) straightforward with others. What are your thoughts and experiences with being open?
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Tue, August 21, 2007 - 4:56 PMDamn girl, what the hell do you have in your chart?
Aquas aren't open. I feel that I can be a social butterfly on a light level and trust my intuition, but as far as the deep hearty stuff? That takes oceans to get to.
Most Aquas are quite reserved in their personal emotions. NOT cold...reserved. The love that I've noticed that we have, at least that is expressed openly is one of a humanitarian nature.
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Tue, August 21, 2007 - 7:55 PMI, like Shade can be the socal butterfly...however I have been called "The world's most secretive woman" by a Saggitarius, of course!
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Tue, August 21, 2007 - 11:21 PMI have to agree with you, Shayde. The saying "still waters run deep" definitely applies to me. I let people in a little bit, enough not to seem like I'm holding back much...but if you want the grail, you're gonna work for that like nobody's business. You have to be real good if you get that deep. I like to hang back a lot and observe...I may not say much, but I know a lot. I don't love people on an individual scale as much as I love humanity. I definitely hear ya on that.
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Tue, August 21, 2007 - 11:12 PMif you ask I will tell you my personal junk. But I dont volunteer it.
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Wed, August 22, 2007 - 7:31 AMI'm with Shayde and the others. Definitely not an open book or heart on my sleeve kinda person. I trust my intuition, can be seen as a social butterfly, and seem to share a lot, but I'm not known for being an open book. I'm an observer and lover of humanity, but on a one on one level it's a little awkward and weird....and if it means that they expect to get into the depth of me right away...well...hahahahahahahahaha Petra, I love that there are people out there like you (an aqua even), but I'm afraid that I just can't relate. -
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Wed, August 22, 2007 - 8:46 AMyou're gonna work for that like nobody's business.
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Wed, August 22, 2007 - 7:50 PMMust admit im both, i have cappy moon so im reserved, but my venus is in pisces, so im also a softy, I think once my virgo & aquarius have analysed a situation beyond doubt the pisces kindness is stronger. But I do rely on intuition alot. My partners friends keep falling in love with me, & he says it because Im to open, but I just like ppl & am a good listener, who can empathise with others, I have been put into the role of cousellor from a young age with my parents marriage & find it easy to fall into this role, Im also a healer of sorts refering to a reliance on the botanical world ( very virgo) I think the aquarius love of humanity, the capricorns need for a role to play the virgos need to be practical & useful & the pisces way of kindness & compassion all contribute to my whole. But my partner is a deep, jealous scorpio tho. lol:) with leo moon so thinks I should always worship him.:)
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Sun, August 26, 2007 - 6:45 PMI tend to be completely trusting, and what I say is honest... but more so with people I don't know very well. As soon as there is risk I close up a little more, but with people I don't know very well I tend to lay it all out there. It's more a reaction to Hating the feeling of being embarrassed about something, so I try to just own everything and not hide stuff....... -
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Tue, August 28, 2007 - 7:08 PMI'm very open...I will share my deepest secrets, beliefs, desires...I like the special space of trust it creates around me. It allows others to feel free to speak their truths with me.
But I'm a Taurus moon, Leo rising... :)
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Wed, August 29, 2007 - 10:19 AMI feel you, Petra. We grew up in the era of the Internet, where sharing the truth of our lives through Tribe etc. is a normal thing. I too have run into problems coz I'm an honest person that I just tell people like it is, and allow people to get too close. My older business partner smacks me on this regularly. I found an article recently that helped me, it should you also:
Beware the overshare in everyday conversations
Blurting out too much information, or TMI, is something we're becoming more and more comfortable with, some psychologists say. We obsess over the mundane details of celebrities' lives and are eager to tell our own stories on blogs and Flickr accounts. And often, all that online openness seeps into everyday conversations.
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Thu, August 30, 2007 - 11:43 AMThat's an interesting point.
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Fri, August 31, 2007 - 5:03 AMMy book is SO open...it has no cover!
Most Aquarians I meet are the same way!
I like it like that!
Peace
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Sat, September 1, 2007 - 2:36 AM^ "it has no cover!" ...Well put Tom! I tend to suffer from verbal barfing (blurting out shocking things that are normal to me) -
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Mon, September 3, 2007 - 12:08 AMI m not sure if im into this verbal barfing thingo, but Iam very truthful, I find it hard to lie. So if im interested in someone they know it, as Im friendly, talkative, easy going. Yet If Im unsure of someone I close off, & suss them out lol. I think its good to let others know who you are when & if you are comfortable with yourself. :) -
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Mon, September 3, 2007 - 7:26 AMYes I think the reason we are so honest is because we have a strong need for others to understand who we really are- the good and the bad. It's very important for us to be understood but it rarely happens, and when it does we rebel against it! Well that's me anyway. -
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Fri, September 7, 2007 - 10:17 PMYou rebel because it scares you when someone really does 'get' you. I understand because I feel this way, and it especially scares me because then they are enchanted by me and want to have sex with me, and this isn't always a good thing.
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Sat, September 8, 2007 - 5:53 AMWhen I was in 5th grade there was this girl I was talking to...she was one of the rich kids in our town. She was tall and beautiul and had long brown hair. We were just chatting about whatever 5th graders chat about and someone told her that the book bag on the chair next to her belonged to some girl named Jackie. The tall, rich good looking young girl took the bookbag and pushed it away from her onto another chair and said: "Ew I hate her!" This person she hated was the shyest most unassuming gentle person in the class. I could not believe it!!!!!!!!!!! This was the first time I saw that people just disliked each other for no reason. I thought it was really kind of ignoble of this girl who had it all including hatred of another person.
My mom used tell me I could not take it if people rejected me. But I don't know if I agree w/my mom. True she is able to blow people off like nothing and she is well liked by lots of poeple. She is smart and funny.
It's funny we communicate on line and ask if we are open books. When I communicate w/my physical friends online I see things in them that I might not see when we are all together and the group dynamics take hold. One time I had to inform someone "I don't speak my whole mind." A book should make you think a bit differently than when you first read it. A book is a person in crystalized form. I am not completely straight forward all the time and don't expect you to be either. We do have feelings to consider...and everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
But if I am with a person and feel that I am always holding back and not saying what I want to and thinking about what I shoulda, woulda, coulda said in that time. I realize the person is not really good for me. Something is up the repression is on and so I usually will not continue that type of relationship. Yes I am a book easy to read. I will allow you to read me if you allow me to read you. And if you try to sabatoge me my Scorpio Moon will remember it forever. And my Libra Moon will forgive you and try again. Until -
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Sat, September 8, 2007 - 12:29 PMI am very open. I love using myself as an example of what not to do. LOL! Or, if it worked out for me, I will hold your hand and walk you blow by blow through how you can do it. I always ask myself, did I just give too much info? I do find it easier to be open on tribes, and online though. In person, you have to be in my inner circle for my to open up the wells. -
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Mon, September 10, 2007 - 12:11 PMShelly, that's exactly how I feel...I've gotten in and out of complicated messes and think that others learn from my experience or at the very least, get some comfort in knowing they're not strange or alone. I think I'm open because I tend to feel very isolated and don't want other people to feel that way if they don't have to. -
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Mon, September 10, 2007 - 7:01 PMPetra I could have written your response as well. I totally identify.
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